It wasn’t a big crowd, but it was certainly fun! Last week, a small group of us got together for the third or fourth Forensic Femmes Slumber Party. Although I still can’t contribute to discussions about timestamps, the MFT or “the worst of the worst” images and videos floating around in cyberspace, here’s a little bit of what else we did talk about:
Having a reputation as a bitch because you struggle with walking the exceedingly fine line between being as direct as the boys, but not as pleasant and “nurturing” as many of us were raised to be.
Sexual harassment. Yes, boys and girls, as tremendously supportive as the online DFIR community can be, harassment still happens — and sometimes it’s blatant. In this day and age, no woman should have to fear for her safety, much less worry about whether she’s more valued for her physique than for her brains.
By the way, if you’re at a conference and you’ve been drinking, and you’re in the same swimming pool where a woman or several women are hanging out in a group, don’t surface from the water like Swamp Thing looking to save Alice. You’re probably too drunk to save anyone (not that we needed saving to begin with) and we will forever remember you as Swamp Thing, no matter how smart a forensicator you are.
If you want to network, even while drunk, make it count. Ask what’s most important to us, what we’re researching, why we think it counts. A lot of guys in our community do this on a regular basis, and we’re all better for their support as they ask, challenge, push us past our comfort zones, and maybe even push themselves past their own comfort zones. We could not appreciate this more!
On the lighter side of things, we pondered whether you do or don’t need to have seen any of the Star Wars trilogies (especially the original) to validate your geek credentials. And in a sillier moment, we realized that you cannot pour wine from a bottle when the cap is still on.
Guess you had to be there. If you’re a female forensicator, join us next time! Meanwhile, the comments are open for debate. What have you experienced as a forensic femme, or as a man working with one or more of us?